Organizing a wedding can be a first “proper” test of a couple’s compatibility. There are expectations, differing visions and, at the end of the day, resources to manage. These are questions a couple will be dealing with for the rest of their marriage, so if there are already conflicts at the planning stage, this is probably a portent of things to come.
A woman asked the internet what to do after a series of conflicts with her husband-to-be over how they spend their wedding fund. We reached out to the woman who made the post via private message and will update the article when she gets back to us.
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But one woman wondered if she was wrong to not want to spend all six figures of her budget
Weddings are complicated things in more ways than one
Wedding planning and, just as importantly, paying for it is not a task that should be taken lightly. After all, the list of responsibilities is pretty long, one has to find a venue, a suitable date, and finalize a guest list. Then you have the catering, the entertainment, the ceremony and all the bits and pieces needed to tie the entire event together. Plus the photographer and all the little parts “surrounding” the day, the engagement party, a bridal shower, the honeymoon and whatever else someone has planned.
As this story demonstrates, all this has to be done (and paid for) with two creative directors at the helm. It also showcases just how important it is for people to be on the same page. Settling on a budget is a good place to start, since it will, ultimately, set all the constraints for everything else.
In the US, the average wedding cost $33,000 last year, which is by no means cheap. This couple is fortunate enough to have a lot more, but, importantly, are not set on necessarily overspending. However, there are already a number of red flags showing up. First and foremost, why is the groom suddenly making demands for money that he is not entitled to?
This man is already showing her how he’ll act when they are actually married
Indeed, the groom’s behavior is not just troubling, but downright horrible. He lies to make a point, he seems to think he can make demands on an agreement between the woman and her father. Not only is this not his money, but he wants to take something for their shared future and spend it just on the wedding.
He then proceeds to insult her, calling her greedy and rude, when, again, he is the one lying and demanding money that isn’t his. Bit of a self-tell there. Again, this isn’t a question of a small wedding versus a big wedding, they will have a pretty nice wedding regardless. So the groom just has some vision and is unwilling to budge on the budget. This is probably a sign of what he’ll be like in the future, hence why so many commenters were suggesting she put the entire thing off.
While it’s not even the top of the iceberg, the fact that he wanted twice as many seats allocated to his family while not being the one paying for them is truly wild. There is a chance he made promises to his family and now values their opinion higher than his wife-to-be, which, again, is probably a sign of how he will treat you in the future.
The woman answered some comments
Most thought her partner was being unreasonable
A few thought she was blind to who her fiancé really was
